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May 6, 2010 By Erika Zane

6 May

So I finally broke… Dylan has been getting worse and worse about taking his naps and going to bed at night. He basically cannot leave our side without crying and I can tell he’s getting increasingly overtired and to be honest, Andy and I need our alone time. So here I am listening to Dylan cry and I feel like I’m going to be sick.

Does this make me a bad mother? I like to think that having the strength to sit here and let him cry when I know there’s nothing wrong with him other than he doesn’t want to go to bed right now (he was fed burped and was a perfectly happy, but tired baby when I left his room) makes me a good parent. I know I cannot give into his every whim as he grows up, ESPECIALLY when it’s not in his best interest. That’s what I’m telling myself at least. But I keep thinking, what if I’m misreading his cry, what if he’s in pain, what if…

Anyway, I also hate that this means he’s getting even less sleep tonight because he’s crying right now rather than sleeping. Hopefully he’ll just sleep all that much better when he does fall asleep. Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers that I have the wisdom to know what’s best for my child and the strength not to cave if I shouldn’t. 🙂

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  1. Diana says

    May 6, 2010 at 5:02 am

    >This was me. Last night, the night before, possibly tonight. There was a point with Bella I thought, "I simply can't go in every 5-10 minutes and walk/pat/rub/soothe/hold/nurse/calm her. It had to end somewhere.

    I felt awful, you know how against cry it out I was. But sometimes there's no other way – that I can come up with. Going in seems to agitate her more, she gets all riled up and freaks out once I put her down, stop patting, or leave.

    I hope it worked for you. I hope it works for me. Because nothing seems to. And on top of it, she's sick. So that probably didn't help anything.

    I'll be waiting to hear how it went. ((hugs))

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