The title of this post is actually meant to make my dad laugh, which is probably silly considering he doesn’t really read my blog. But hey, that sort of works out… you’ll see what I mean 😉
Right before we moved, we had to sell my office set (a remnant of the days of working from home in the not so distant past). It was a really nice quality desk and credenza and I put it on Craigslist for a ridiculously low price (because I got it for a crazy price a couple of years ago). Side note: Yay Craigslist! If you want something to move quickly on craigslist, price it at least 50% below what you think it’s worth.
As I watched the couple who bought the desk try to get it into their truck, I noticed something (No, I’m not dense. This is not the first time I’ve made this observation). Men often do not hear women when they speak. Especially if they are in the middle of trying to do something that requires focus. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I know it’s hard for people to hear other people in general when they are focused on something, but especially so if it is a woman talking to a man.
I remember hearing about a study a while back that focused on why women still struggled, to some extent, in Corporate America. The conclusion was that men have trouble focusing in on women’s voices. I think that study may have been on to something. I noticed several times, in a group setting of any kind, another woman or I would say something which would get no reaction and then two seconds later a man would say the EXACT same thing and everyone acted as if it was the first time they had heard this idea/observation/insite.
OK, so here is what I observed from that couple with the desk and credenza:
The ramp was set up to walk the desk up to the bed of the truck using a furniture dolly. The man (who was wearing sandals btw – with socks of course 🙂 ), decided it was a good idea to try to walk backwards up the ramp (with absolutely no traction) pulling the dolly. Surprise, surprise – he slipped and fell and probably sprained his ankle as he was limping after that. He was about to try the same thing again (yes really!), so his wife/girlfriend decided to try to stop him and present another idea before he hurt himself again. She must have said his name AT LEAST five times before she finally got his attention, which is around the time that my husband spoke up and suggested he listen to her (coincidence?).
Anyway, I do wonder if it is possible that it is not a genetic incapacity for hearing women’s voices but just selective hearing. What do you think? Do you think I’m crazy or do you think there’s another explanation?
As for the title of this post: this is a sentence that popped out of my mouth quite a few times when I was trying to interject during one of my father’s dinnertime mini-lectures. I love you dad!