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July 8, 2010 By Erika Zane

8 Jul

I’ve been thinking lately about women and the way we treat each other.

I have to admit, as a single non-mother before Dylan, I thought women were pretty shamefully mean and unsupportive of each other, while guys seemed to have an easy going, supportive comradery.

I’ve since changed my mind.  I LOVE how encouraging women are to each other when the bonding factor is motherhood.  What I mean is: I have had more meaningful conversations and just altogether positive interactions with complete strangers since Dylan was born than I have in my entire life!

I think, in many ways, motherhood (whether you give birth, adopt, or spoil/nurture another’s child) is a right of passage into an amazing community of women.  I wish more women knew how wonderful this community is because I think it would take away a lot of unnecessary fear.

Obviously some fear is healthy… girls shouldn’t go out and get pregnant just to make new friends.  But I think some women hold off on having children because they worry they aren’t prepared.  No one is prepared, but mothers have each other’s backs!

My friend Ashley told me about an experience she had at her pool while nursing her baby girl.  Long story short, one of the security guys for her complex tried to tell her she had to go to the locker room to nurse because she was showing too much skin and “this is a family pool”.

Side note: This is the same pool where I saw a girl in a skimpy bikini with a tattoo of a chesty naked woman on her back.  Not to mention that I know how discrete Ashley is when she nurses.

Anyway, he threatened to kick her out and she told him it was illegal for him to do that.

So, here’s my point:  I told my mom the story and she told me about a “what would you do?” scenario she saw on TV where a restaurant owner told a woman she couldn’t nurse in his restaurant.  Apparently two women at the nearby table got up to defend that mother!  Isn’t that so cool?  Even re-telling that story makes me cry (but then again, so does everything these days… thank you hormones).

I love being a part of this community.  Thank you ladies for being so wonderful!  I really do love you all.

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  1. Diana @Hormonal Imbalances says

    July 10, 2010 at 2:24 am

    That is a neat story. I agree – motherhood changes the way women act towards you. I used to think of it as a kind of club, and I know I was right now. But in a good way, just one where you have a deeper understanding of each other.

  2. Heidi says

    July 11, 2010 at 5:49 pm

    I love that I’ve been able to see that change in women’s personalities first hand, and I agree that it’s a neat sisterhood. I definitely wish I could see that bond without the baby; however, I do look forward to that respect and connection when I do have kids.

  3. Heidi says

    July 14, 2010 at 1:55 pm

    I agree too, and I’ve also seen that “the sisterhood” stays strong throughout your life. I’ve now witnessed interest from strangers at the mention of being a grandma. -I’m Dylan’s… the most perfect baby ever…, Nana. 🙂 – I truly cherish my women friends, don’t know what I’d do without them!

  4. JoAnn says

    July 14, 2010 at 2:01 pm

    Sorry …above post should read from JoAnn not Heidi.

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Hello and welcome.  It’s been a while.  For Lent this year I decided to fast from the thing that took too much of my attention from what is truly important: Social Media.  Though there are countless amazing benefits to Social Media, after about a month offline so far, there are seemingly just as many negatives.  I never realized how much of my brain had been hijacked by it.  I’ve had so many revelations about how much easier it is to move forward when I’m not constantly reminded of the past.  But I still want to record my family as they grow at this ridiculous speed and, I’m realizing, so many of our family’s memories are here.  Those along with so many of the struggles and stages we’ve worked through.  Maybe in the midst of COVID19 isolation and my kids around me so often, I’m brought back to a time when they were too young for school and with me so often.  Writing here during that time helped make up for the limited adult conversation in my days and the overwhelm provided by my… little treasures 😉 My husband, fur babies, three fiesty kids, and I hereby extend an invitation to visit this little sneak peak into our life. We’re super flawed and broken and there aren’t too many dull moments around here.  And I promise it’s not always as magical as some of my golden hour, sun-soaked images would suggest.  There’s usually too much coffee in my system and we welcome all the prayers.  Come on over if you want to process with me.

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