I’ve been thinking lately about women and the way we treat each other.
I have to admit, as a single non-mother before Dylan, I thought women were pretty shamefully mean and unsupportive of each other, while guys seemed to have an easy going, supportive comradery.
I’ve since changed my mind. I LOVE how encouraging women are to each other when the bonding factor is motherhood. What I mean is: I have had more meaningful conversations and just altogether positive interactions with complete strangers since Dylan was born than I have in my entire life!
I think, in many ways, motherhood (whether you give birth, adopt, or spoil/nurture another’s child) is a right of passage into an amazing community of women. I wish more women knew how wonderful this community is because I think it would take away a lot of unnecessary fear.
Obviously some fear is healthy… girls shouldn’t go out and get pregnant just to make new friends. But I think some women hold off on having children because they worry they aren’t prepared. No one is prepared, but mothers have each other’s backs!
My friend Ashley told me about an experience she had at her pool while nursing her baby girl. Long story short, one of the security guys for her complex tried to tell her she had to go to the locker room to nurse because she was showing too much skin and “this is a family pool”.
Side note: This is the same pool where I saw a girl in a skimpy bikini with a tattoo of a chesty naked woman on her back. Not to mention that I know how discrete Ashley is when she nurses.
Anyway, he threatened to kick her out and she told him it was illegal for him to do that.
So, here’s my point: I told my mom the story and she told me about a “what would you do?” scenario she saw on TV where a restaurant owner told a woman she couldn’t nurse in his restaurant. Apparently two women at the nearby table got up to defend that mother! Isn’t that so cool? Even re-telling that story makes me cry (but then again, so does everything these days… thank you hormones).
I love being a part of this community. Thank you ladies for being so wonderful! I really do love you all.