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August 3, 2010 By Erika Zane

3 Aug

Thank you for all the supportive comments on yesterday’s post! I think it may have come across as a whiny cry baby and I apologize for that; I was feeling sorry for myself rather than concentrating on the many wonderful people I have in my life. I think most of you understood that the post was not about being tit for tat at all. I was not trying to say that I expect all my actions to be counterbalanced by my friends… I was asking if there’s ever a point where it’s ok to let the friendship die because both friends just don’t really seem to need each other any more. I loved your responses and I agree; I think there are many different kinds of friendships and, first and foremost, I need to decide what kind of friendship I have with this person.

So anyway, I promise to be more positive in my upcoming posts because I believe you get back what you put into the world. Putting negativity into my day just brings more negativity back into my life and I don’t want to be that kind of person.

On that note, I hope you all have a wonderful evening!

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  1. Michelle says

    August 3, 2010 at 11:11 pm

    You are so not a whiny cry baby! 😛 When friendships change, it is hard, heck, whenever there is change it is hard! I think there definitely is a point when you can/need to just step back and let the relationship go, let it be whatever it has become, and stop trying to keep it as it was. It is difficult when important relationships change, the uncertainty, the unknown, is all difficult to deal with.

    So if you can, step back, breathe, and as you said you want to, try and focus on the positive relationships and people you have around you! 🙂 You only have 24 hours in each day, and so much energy to spend in that time. While it is best to spend the time and energy focusing on the positive, it is ok to have the occasional down/frustrating/bad day. Life can’t be all roses and sunshine, having the harder days helps us appreciate the really good ones 🙂

    I hope you had a wonderful evening as well!

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Hello and welcome.  It’s been a while.  For Lent this year I decided to fast from the thing that took too much of my attention from what is truly important: Social Media.  Though there are countless amazing benefits to Social Media, after about a month offline so far, there are seemingly just as many negatives.  I never realized how much of my brain had been hijacked by it.  I’ve had so many revelations about how much easier it is to move forward when I’m not constantly reminded of the past.  But I still want to record my family as they grow at this ridiculous speed and, I’m realizing, so many of our family’s memories are here.  Those along with so many of the struggles and stages we’ve worked through.  Maybe in the midst of COVID19 isolation and my kids around me so often, I’m brought back to a time when they were too young for school and with me so often.  Writing here during that time helped make up for the limited adult conversation in my days and the overwhelm provided by my… little treasures 😉 My husband, fur babies, three fiesty kids, and I hereby extend an invitation to visit this little sneak peak into our life. We’re super flawed and broken and there aren’t too many dull moments around here.  And I promise it’s not always as magical as some of my golden hour, sun-soaked images would suggest.  There’s usually too much coffee in my system and we welcome all the prayers.  Come on over if you want to process with me.

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