Since having Little Man, I’ve noticed something about myself that bothers me a little. I’m a “know-it-all”.
I’ve had several pregnant friends since I gave birth and joined the ranks of new mothers. Since that point, because obviously I’m so experienced and all, I occasionally look through my friend’s registries and have thoughts like “oh, they don’t really want that”, “um, that doesn’t work”, and “Oh, they really won’t be needing that!”.
I know. That’s terrible!
Then, after briefly pondering whether or not I should mention these thoughts to them, I hit myself on the forehead and tell myself to mind my own business.
I am totally aware that no two houses run the same. Just because I didn’t need that particular item, does not mean someone else won’t. Plus, I remember being pretty frustrated when my friends decided to get me something that wasn’t on my registry because they liked that product better. I had done my research and I didn’t appreciate the assumption that I didn’t know what I needed.
Now, in retrospect, I understand why people tweaked my registry. I also ultimately appreciated some of the “better” gifts. In any case, I still think it’s probably best if I hold back my opinions and trust that my friends have done their research and might not appreciate my efforts, no matter how noble my intentions. Because, let’s face it: no one really enjoys a know-it-all. Right?
I have recently found my self doing the same thing with wedding registries and feel really bad about it. Who really needs 5 pairs of new sheets! I also do not give people my own opinion. I will probably do the same thing when I end up having kids and look at other people’s baby registries. I do a lot of research like you, read reviews and at the end of my search, feel i have found the best product in my price range. Knowing that you also do a lot of research, i would trust your opinion and will probably ask you about products in the future.
LOL. Um, I think I need 5 pairs of new sheets. Or not. How do you even use that many sheets unless you *never* do laundry? I guess if you change your sheets every other day maybe?
I do a ton of research. My husband loves that I never have to shop for long. He, however, does not love how persuasive I am when I decide we *need* something.
Oh how I have been in your shoes 😉 Then I tell myself only God can judge and I just let it be…I think that’s what makes it easier when those thoughts come to mind 🙂
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That’s a very good point. I probably need to tell myself that one more often in general 🙂
I remember feeling irritated when someone gave me something not on my registry. Like another blanket. And now I have 20 and most of them I’ve never used. So in many ways , I get it. It’s frustrating to see gifts come in that you already got or will never use.
But like you, some of them I have used time and time again. Like this hooded towel that was so enormous we tucked it away until just a few months ago. Now? Perfection. Then? Total irritation. I was having a baby – not a toddler. I guess she knew better than me. 🙂
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Exactly! You hit the nose on the head. Occasionally the non registry gifts are a blessing, but often they are useless (ie: the disposable diaper cakes we both received). At least if someone buys it off your registry, you can return it if you don’t like it or need it, but you’re stuck with it otherwise. A lot of times, I just want them to register for a different monitor or pack ‘n play because I like mine better. But I should probably refrain from buying the one I like better anyway, huh?
I have a friend that we call the walking encyclopedia. At first I was irritated that he has the answer to almost everything. I had challenged him many times and most of it he succeeded. I learned to appreciate his genius. And now, I consider him one of the most trusted and reliable friends.
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