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The Realization Of An Ideal Birth, Despite Obstacles.

November 2, 2011 By Erika Zane

2 Nov

This is a guest post by a mamma who had an amazing natural birth experience.  I’m happy to introduce Danielia from Anchors Away.  She is such a sweetheart and I love her perspective!  Enjoy!

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Hi all, I am Daneilia from Anchors Away.  I want to thank Erika for having me guest post on her blog, especially because she is super sweet and I get to share something with you all that was and is highly important to me.  I’m going to give you all my spiel on having a natural birth.  It’s one of the things in my life I am most passionate about, after all it is about life.

When I was younger I loved watching all the TLC shows on giving birth.  My favorite ones were the water births, which were always drug-free.  The women would say how the pain wasn’t something that consumed them.  It is just an amazing experience.  I knew then, like I knew when my husband and I got married, what our plans would be when I got pregnant.  I would birth our child naturally.

I am one of those people who believe in doing everything the most natural way first, if at all possible.  I am also that person that absolutely hates needles so, if I can stay away from those, I’m a happy camper.  Mostly, though, I really wanted to avoid ALL of the possible complications and long term effects that can accompany epidurals.  I have met a couple of women who will be forever impaired one way or another because of having an epidural.  Everything from life long issues to death were the possible risks I wasn’t willing to take.

I had several midwives who worked with me during my entire pregnancy.  I absolutely adore them for what they have done for my daughter and me.  They all knew I wanted to birth my baby naturally from the start.  They also all knew I wanted a water birth, but since our Army plan didn’t pay for water births, I had to settle for being on a bed.  The Army hospital I had my daughter in had just renovated several birthing rooms and a few of them had new jacuzzi tubs.  To my surprise, my midwives told me as long as I had one of those rooms during my labor, I could sit in the tub.  All smiles on my face, I was so excited.

So, on a Sunday morning in July at 1am, I went into active labor and had my husband take me to the hospital.  As soon as we arrived, I was being monitored.  Even though I was in pain, I was thrilled because I didn’t want to have any doctors.

I didn’t just trust my midwife because I knew her, I trusted her because she cares about natural births!  Since she already knew my birth plan, she knew the steps to take that night.  After being monitored and checked, I was only dilated at 3cm, so she gave me the “go-to” to head over to my room and get prepared.

Once in my room, I was helped into the jacuzzi tub (so I somewhat got a water birth) and, after several hours, when I had begun bearing down, my midwife pulled me out of the tub and checked me.  I was 9cm.  My contractions sped up very quickly and, before I knew it, I was giving birth vaginally without any medications.

Our daughter was born without any complications.  L was given the Apgar test and scored a 9.  After L and I were tested and checked over, we were given the “good-to-go”.

My birth experience was AMAZING and perfect and I wouldn’t have had it any other way.  My daughter and I were healthy and safe which is exactly what every mother wants.  I couldn’t have done without my wonderful husband and midwife.  They literally held my hand the entire time.  They stuck by me even when I might have second guessed myself on being able to do it.

I know that for our next child I will have the same birthing plan because, for me, natural is best.  If anyone tells you, you won’t be able to handle having a baby naturally they are WRONG (unless you are high risk).  I had a lot of people tell me, “you’ll probably change your mind and get that epidural” or “its a lot of pain, you’ll probably get an epidural”.  In the end its “mind over matter” and you are capable of anything.

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Comments

  1. Daneilia says

    November 2, 2011 at 3:48 pm

    Thank you for having me doll! You seriously are a great person to chat with and I love having things in common. It makes experiences like mine above, all worth the while to share with others.
    Daneilia recently posted..Breastfeeding for the Mommy

  2. Kim says

    November 3, 2011 at 5:15 am

    I love a good birth story 🙂 So glad you got the experience you wanted! How wonderful it is, giving birth. I’m a birth junkie, myself, so I get it. 🙂 Thanks for stopping by my place today as well.
    Kim recently posted..Dance

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